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Parenting advice I wish I knew before I had kids.
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items As the saying goes there is no manual, no book, no follow along tutorial to raise healthy little humans. We all make mistakes as we go along this journey called parenthood. The important part of the journey is as long as we can learn from our mistake... A little love goes a long way. Here is what I have learned along the way and still keep on learning.
It has got to be love and love with no strings attached that is how we build bonds, bonds so strong they unable to be broken or torn apart.
One of the very important lessons that I have come to learn and understand is we have to love our children unconditionally. What does that look like? It looks like love without conditions. Just pure love from the heart and accepting your child just the way they are.
Our children need the assurance that we will be there for them whatever struggles they may be facing. That they are never alone.
From the moment a child is born it is completely dependent on his or her mother. I have learned that being emotionally
available throughout a child's life is not a button you can switch on or off. Emotional intelligence is what makes or breaks a child. As parents we are able to guide our children through life by being emotionally available.
Laying firm foundations early on help to steer the child in this ever changing ever evolving world. This also goes hand in hand with teaching the child discipline not punishing the child but lovingly guiding and correcting the child.
I have learned the importance of laying a good and firm foundation in educating our children on having good morals and values. How to treat each other and how to treat themselves. It is important to help guide the child in how they see themselves and others in the world.
When we show love and affection towards our children it is an investment, we make that will bring a lifetime of return as they will pass this on to their children and their children and their children.
Tell them you love them. Show them you love them. Call them just to say you love them. It does not matter the age. Starting from the day they make their appearance into this world and beyond. They are never too young, they are never too old.
One thing I have found to be true is that what we think of our children matters and what they think we think of them matters. Children should not work for our approval. Make them feel important because they are.
Tell them; I Will Always Be Your Number 1 Fan! All our children always hunger for is to know that we will support and guide them in this thing called life.
Where words go there, they grow. Let our words water our children and grow seeds of kindness.
Words carry power. The things we say to our children matter. We choose what we say, we choose how we behave, we choose how we respond. Many times, it is our past experiences in our own childhood that causes us to act inappropriately towards our children. To say things, we don't mean to say. The good news is it stops with us.
This is especially true with teens and younger children alike they need to be able to trust us and we need to build on that trust daily. This in turn prevents a lot of unwanted situations that could have been prevented.
Building long lasting relationships with our children is far better than not having any relationship at all. It is important to help the child understand that we are the parents, and they are the children and to discipline our children wherever needed but I believe in balance and have come to learn that working daily on building a good relationship with our children goes a long way.
We have to reach deep inside search for compassion, search for humility and ask them to help us teach our children how to operate in this knowledge. Only then are we able to set ourselves and our next generation free.
This is a big one a really big one. Apologize to our children when we make mistakes. We are not perfect parents, a lot of us struggle with this one. When we learn to apologize to our children no matter the age, we teach them in turn how to say sorry to others, we also teach them how to forgive. They go hand in hand. No number of books will be able to teach that.
The only way our children can be sure that they are able to steer their boat is to watch us steer our own boat.
Monkey see, monkey do. One thing I have learned for sure is that they watch us. They watch our every move, they imitate us. So, we must be sure what we are putting out there for them to see. How we show up is important.
A child should know they have the right to set healthy boundaries. We as parents can guide them from a young age how to go about it.
Teaching our children to set healthy boundaries will not only allow them to grow up in creating safe environments mentally and physically but will equip them to stand up for themselves even into adulthood.
When we teach our children how to respect others, we instill something that cannot be bought with gold or silver.
As the years go by, the more out of touch with reality we become and what is really important. Respect towards others will always remain an imperative part of self - development. We as parents have a moral responsibility to instill this value in our children.
We should ease our children into the decision - making process. We do not have to decide everything for them. This will help them learn at a young age how to maneuver those big important decisions one day.
We must allow our children to make choices for themselves not all the time but some of the time to encourage them to think for themselves and also deal with the consequences of their choices. This helps with the development of the child it sets them up for the big world.
whenever possible, allow your child to be immersed with love by your close relatives. There is something magical that happens when there is love an acceptance.
How does the saying go? It takes a village to raise a child. Every family member can help to raise a child. The influence and love are important to the child's wellbeing.
When they are little humans even as they grow always allow them to explore.
Let them explore, let them get dirty in mud, let them feel, taste, hear. Let them.
Doing physical activities not only boosts our little humans mental health but they physical health as well.
We can help our children grow strong bodies and minds by introducing them to sport at a young age. As they grow it will become a part of their lifestyle. The benefits of doing some form of activity for both old and young are endless.
We can teach them how to deal with little people problems effectively but never expect them to deal with big people problems.
I have learned that children should be allowed to be children and never carry the weight of their parents on their shoulders. We must never overwhelm our children with our problems.